Post Modern Feminists?

So what do I know about feminism? Not much,but I have become increasing annoyed by the portrayal in movies by young(She's Just Not That Into You) to middle-age(Sex and the City-let's be honest) females in film. Those two movies in particular were ,in my opinion,films that attempted to portray woman as strong and independent and instead just reinforced the stereotype that woman are not complete unless there is a man in the picture.
Let me say,at the time, I was a huge fan of Sex and the City,the series. I loved it and have seen each episode a number of times. However seeing the movie,I was so offended by the lead character,Carrie Bradshaw and her behavior. Carrie and Big(her boyfriend) have broken up and gotten back numerous times. Finally,at the end of the series,HE decides she is the one and they live happily ever after. The movie picks up sometime later. Here is the short version. They are living in non marital bliss. Off the cuff they decide to get married. She plans this big wedding,he freaks out and leaves her at the altar. The rest of the film is about her trying to come back from the utter humiliation of that event with the help of her friends. Finally a year later,they see each other,she rushes into his arms and they get married. Literally this is how it plays out. He shits on her,they have no discussion about ANY OF IT. She takes him back. No questions asked. WTF!? No the lesson here is no matter how many times a guy leaves or treats you like crap,if he has a penthouse apartment and a huge closet built for your clothes,then by all means marry the jackass!
The second film on my shitlist is He's Just Not That Into You. I picked it up last night at Redbox for a dollar. In all honesty,it's a fairly funny movie that has many good moments and a great cast. Short version once more. Again we are subjected to a young woman,(Gigi Hamm,played by Big Love's Ginnifer Goodwin)fairly successful,who can't meet a good man. She seems to always pick the wrong guy. Thru out the film,her entrance into the male mind(played by Justin Long),tries to guide her in the right direction. He is also kind of dick when it comes to woman. So we spend the entire film listening to her whine and analyze(with her equally neurotic girlfriends) about how this guy did this and why doesn't this one do that. She finally decides that Justin Long is the one. Makes a move on him. He turns he down flat. She is of course devastated. Towards the end of the film she meets the nice guy (really nice),goes on one date with him and ends up with Justin Long at the door and ends up kissing him because he says all the shit she wants to hear and also because The Fray is playing that annoying Gray's Anatomy song(Don't even get me started on that show). So to summarize Gigi dumps the nice guy and ends up with shit head. GREAT MESSAGE!
When did this all start? I think all of these movies portray woman as victims and have no control over who and what they want out of life. It like this retro version of hetro-relationships has been re branded and repackaged in Jimmy Choo's.